Give children free parents not to let children suffering from mental illness-tataufo

Mental illness last October 10th to give children freedom to grow parents not to let children suffering from the twenty-fourth World Mental Health day. Medical experts suggest that mental illness has become a common disease, frequently occurring disease, and showing a younger age, white-collar trend. Among them, due to the influence of rebellious period, entrance and other factors, the students from grade two to grade three are prone to mental illness. In recent years, because of learning pressure and lead to children suffering from mental illness is no longer the case what news, the author also has repeatedly contacted the similar case from the case analysis, the author thinks, children suffering from mental illness, seemingly is actually learning too much pressure caused, and is not the root of learning but, learning is the fuse, to ignite the explosives. The real root is in the parents, it is the fact that parents have a problem with children’s parenting style, which is caused by the high expectations of their parents to their children. The pressure is not easy, but usually do not pay attention to the days and months multiplying, and children to communicate, only in accordance with the wishes of their children, the children far beyond the scope of the child’s ability, when children have difficulties, parents did not play the role of assistance, it is one disaster after another. The children grew up on the pressure, just to let the children be able to test one hundred points, focus on the cultivation of intelligence, ignoring the spiritual needs, ignoring the cultivation, for children moral endurance training. Give love for children, are based on the scores of the basis, if the test ideal love for children, if the exam is not ideal, the child hengmeilengdui. Children in this illusion of love, slowly grow up, the psychological also subtle changes in the great changes. When children are not assertive, even have their own ideas, parents will also be ignored, until her children, when they have their own ideas, children never say to parents, but buried in the heart. Learning itself does not put pressure on kids, but the outside factors have become a focus of study focus, when the child had a problem when you think of learning cause, and this attribution is being blind, it is precisely in the blind factors is caused by the child, the root of the problem. Once took a case, the third grade boy, his parents found me to consult. Say that children have half a year to participate in the college entrance examination (quality lesson), but suddenly do not go to school, ask me if there is no way, let the children go back to school. In fact, the child had been ill for nearly a year, but the parents do not send their children to the disease seriously, they did not consider the child’s condition, but looking for "prescription" to let the children go back to school. After understanding, see the child for several months in the hospital, every time after the disease must drink a lot of the hospital of traditional Chinese medicine treatment, the results are given for depression. According to the parents say the phenomenon, I determine the child spirit has a big problem, I suggest they take their children to go to Beijing to find the formal authority of the hospital for treatment. To Beijing for treatment when the child is tied to the bed, the mother distressed child, give him untied, when the rope, the child will be hit, mother helpless, flow.

给孩子成长的自由 父母莫让孩子患上精神疾病刚刚过去的10月10日是第24个世界精神卫生日。医疗专家提示,目前精神疾病已成为临床上一类常见病、多发病,并呈现出低龄化、白领化的趋势。其中,由于叛逆期、升学等因素的影响,初二到高三的学生容易发生精神疾病。近年来因为学习压力而导致孩子患上精神疾病的案例已经不再是什么新闻,笔者也曾经多次接触过类似的案例,从案例来分析,笔者认为,孩子患上精神疾病,表面上看似是学习的压力过大而造成的,其实,根源并非是学习,学习只不过是导火索,起到了引燃炸药包的作用。真正的根源在父母,确切的说是父母对孩子的管教方式出了问题,是父母对孩子的期望值过高而造成的。压力的产生并不是一蹴而就的,而是日积月累,平日里不注重和孩子进行交流与沟通,只顾按照自己的意愿管教孩子,对孩子的期望远远的超出了孩子的能力范围,当孩子有了困难,父母并没有起到协助的作用,反而是雪上加霜。从小就对孩子施压,只是为了让孩子能够考一百分,注重智力的培养,忽略精神的需求,忽略了对孩子道德的培养、耐挫力的训练。对孩子所施与的爱,都是建立在分数的基础上,如果考试理想就对孩子爱,如果考试不理想,就对孩子横眉冷对。孩子在这种错觉的爱中,慢慢的成长起来,心理也在潜移默化的发生着巨大的改变。孩子小的时候,没有主见,即便是有自己的想法也会被父母置之不理,等到孩子大了,有了自己的想法的时候,孩子再也不会对父母说,而是埋在了心里。学习本身并不会给孩子造成压力,而是外界的种种因素把学习聚焦成了一个焦点,当孩子有了问题的时候,就认为是学习造成的,而这种归因是存有盲区的,也恰恰是盲区里的因素,才是造成孩子出现问题的根源。曾接过一个个案,高三的男生,其父母找到我进行咨询。说孩子还有半年就要参加高考(精品课)了,可是,突然就不去上学了,问我有没有办法,让孩子回到学校里去。其实,孩子已经患病有近一年的时间,而父母并没有把孩子的病当回事,他们并没有考虑孩子的病情,而是到处找“药方”让孩子回到学校。经过了解,孩子在省医院看病已有好几个月的时间,每次看完病都要喝很多的中药进行治疗,医院给出的结果是抑郁症。根据其父母所说的现象,我判定孩子精神上已经出了大问题,我建议他们带孩子去北京找正规的权威医院进行治疗。到北京进行治疗的时候,孩子是被绑在床上的,妈妈心疼孩子,就给他解开,当绳子解开的时候,孩子就会动手打人,妈妈无奈,流着眼泪再把孩子捆上。孩子的爸爸是一位老师,从小就对孩子要求非常严格,学习成绩一直名列前茅,孩子平时几乎没有自己的时间,更不要说玩的时间了,如果学习稍有放松,就会遭到打骂。对于孩子的要求夫妻两人也都是尽量满足,唯独在学习上没有任何的商量。除了学习,很少和孩子进行交流,就是有交流,大部分的时间都是再聊学习。最终,孩子积劳成疾,即便是这样,父母所关心的仍然是要让孩子回到学校,参加高考,孩子的生命都已经出现了问题,还有什么力量再去承担生命以外的东西。教育的最终目的,是让一个人通过受教育成为完善的人,而不是只为了考高分,上大学。所以,父母不要本末倒置,要明确自己培养孩子的目的是什么。尊重孩子的生命,尊重孩子的天性和天赋。把孩子当孩子去对待,不要提前透支孩子的生命,让孩子变成一个精神上未老先衰的人。给孩子成长的自由,给孩子精神的富足,让孩子先成为一个快乐的人吧!今日话题:你会给孩子成长的自由吗?把你的看法发到我们微信公众号“Q宝先锋”的后台来,有机会获得精美好礼~相关的主题文章:

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